Dr. Sang Nguyen, L.Ac
Healthy Sex is Healthy Living.
Women by nature take a longer time than men to warm up to sex. A woman may need to be relaxed and feel loved to open up. A woman is in charge of her sexual experiences by getting to know her body well and the sexual positions that will lead to orgasms. In Tantra intimacy practice, there is no goal in making love.
However, some planning may come in handy before engaging in intimacy practices.
For HIM:
Be intuitive, attentive, and open with her energy
Set the scene, prepare the room, and make it as esthetically romantic as you can.
Find a way to encourage relaxation. (For example, offer some tasty tea or light massage)
Prepare some healthy food, light some candles, and play soft music in the background.
Touch caressingly, gently, etc.
Find out what she likes. Give her time to warm up and desire you. Use your words thoughtfully. When she aches for you, take your time. With love, kiss her on the lips, face, neck, and spine. Breathe together and slowly merge into a deeper and deeper space of intimacy.
For HER:
Ask him for what you want. Tell him exactly how you like it. Be as specific as possible (and as warranted); remember every situation is different.
Meditatively slow down; surrender to the moment as to build the energy and extend the pleasure.
Encourage him. Squeeze him closer to you and show him that you enjoy his attention.
Breathe slowly and deeply; resist the temptation to proceed hard and fast.
Know yourself, your body, and your emotional tendencies. You can be open and trust your flow by relaxing into your innate nature of love and intuition.
For HIM and HER
Connect at a deeper level through eyes gazing
Harmonize the flow of energy through meditation and breathing
Have an attitude of unity
Practice yoga to open the energy centers.
Eat Plant-based food for the Lymphatic flow